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Mother’s Day is quickly approaching! As a busy mom, Mother’s Day can sneak up on you with the chaos of end of the year school activities, home projects, and travel plans. Moms have a heart of gold and do not have expectations of presents, but we still love the gesture of gifting to make the day special and show our appreciation for everything she does for the family.

“We read a lot of articles and books about how to get through the engagement process, but no one ever talked to us about what it would be like the first year of our marriage. I wish we had known what to expect,” said one of the couples my husband and I mentor. This is a common comment, and if you find yourself having similar feelings, do not fret! You are not alone. The first year of marriage is fabulous, but it can also be difficult. Two people learning to become one does not happen overnight.

We all like to think we have good manners in marriage, but with the people that are closest to us, we can sometimes find ourselves slipping a bit. As stated by Cindy Grosso of the Charleston School of Protocol, manners are not about a bunch of rules. Manners are the outward manifestation of the condition of our heart. If we have a heart that loves, honors, respects, and cherishes our spouse, then these traits will show in how we behave.

Society is opening and people are resuming long overdue vacations. This is great news! I recently posted some tips on making your travels successful, but let’s focus on dos and don’ts of traveling with friends.

 

1. Boundaries: When traveling with others, set guidelines, boundaries, and expectations before leaving town. If you know you and your husband want one night to yourselves, express this up front. If a quiet breakfast in bed is necessary to start your day, see if this fits with the group’s schedule. 

The world is opening, and it is time to celebrate! One of the first things people are doing as they exercise their recaptured freedom is heading out of town to new destinations. I thought a few refresher tips on travel might be good for all of us.

Walking into the room, my husband pauses in front of the TV. Turning to me with a spoiler alert about my favorite Hallmark movie he says, “Hey Lisa…they get married.” And you know what? He’s right! The girl found her prince charming, and the couple has a happy ending, every time.

How many mornings have we left home in a state of utter chaos? Breakfast was late, children were crying, and we hurriedly throw on clothes from the night before only to realize how wrinkled we look. This mad dash makes for an unpleasant parting from our family and it is usually caused by a disorganized approach to our routine. So much of the bedlam we experience at the beginning of the day can be avoided if we are willing to implement a few tasks the night before.

The mamor (mother-in-law) and damor (daughter-in-law) relationship is meant to be beautiful and strong. In parts 1 and 2 of our series we learned why women in these roles might have certain feelings in their new family dynamics. Once we learned the “why” we then explored practical steps we can take to strengthen these special bonds. As we bring our series to a close, I want to impart some words of wisdom we all need to hear, and be reminded of, to ensure we create a healthy, life-long bond between the mamor/damor.

In part one of our series on the mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship we learned why the women who find themselves in these roles often experience emotions ranging from pure joy to hurt and sadness. Once we discovered the answers, our understanding of this special relationship came into focus. We had an “aha” moment which makes our path forward easier to navigate.

Do you remember the movie Monster-in-Law? It starred Jennifer Lopez and Jane Fonda in a romantic comedy centered around the tumultuous relationship between a bride and her future mother-in-law. If you have not seen it, you should. It will keep you laughing but, sadly, may hit closer to home than you would like to admit.

As Texas plunged into single digits with multiple days of a windchill below freezing, millions found themselves stranded with no power or water. Living along the Gulf Coast we have weathered hurricanes and endured power outages for much longer periods, but somehow this seemed different. Maybe for those of us close to the shoreline it was the unusual sight of snow we experienced as opposed to the natural disasters we usually face that arrive with rain, wind, and sweltering heat.

Our son and daughter (in law) were finally able to take a long-overdue honeymoon to St. Lucia in December. Cecelia interned one summer for a travel agent so naturally called the company to book their trip. What an incredible experience they had, and I was reminded WHY using a travel agent is worth the expense. Fees range depending on the service, but most charge between $300-350 to plan a vacation somewhere in the Caribbean Islands. 

Q: I will be a new mom soon, and I have been preparing for life “after” a newborn. There is a lot of information on raising babies, and how dads can support mom, but I cannot find much on how moms can support dads. A lot of my mental preparation has been around my marriage. Specific questions: How do I preserve my marriage? How do we embrace the changes? How do I maintain my husband as a priority when we have a tiny human demanding everything? How can I help my husband bond with our new child?

Want to set your children up for success? Then look no further than the habits of successful people you know, whether that be in the corporate world, media, or within your own circle of friends. Experts agree that there are certain common traits all successful people possess. This is great news because it means we can emulate those leaders that have come before us. 

Many of us grew up learning multitasking was a hallmark of a productive person. While sounding good in theory, this practice has proven to be incorrect. Studies now reveal that multitasking is nothing more than switching back and forth between tasks and it lowers our productivity. Below are 5 points that deal with the facts behind project hopping and the lack of performance that occurs when we allow seemingly innocuous interruptions to occur in daily life.

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3 Tips for Interpreting Personality Test Results



If you are looking for a tool to identify key motivators in life, to shed light on why certain occurrences bother you and others do not, or searching for examples of what a good career fit might be, a great jumping off point is to take a personality test. These tests, like Myers-Briggs, Enneagram, DISC, or Big 5 Personality, are different psychological approaches that help explain aspects of our personality. Each test’s purpose varies with some tilted towards business and how you interact at work and others focusing on your main desires and how you relate with the world around you. Personality tests are an insightful avenue that allow us to take a step back from ourselves and receive insight into the ways we operate from a trusted source.

When I first took the Myers-Briggs test I felt like someone truly “got me” and understood how my brain worked. It was cathartic to feel like I was not alone. Upon taking the Enneagram a few years later I had a similar experience, but in a different capacity. Both spoke to a part of me that needed their wisdom yet the guidance they imparted impacted me in different ways. When it comes to personality tests every one of them is unique. Each test has truth and wisdom to give, however some are more suited to analytical individuals while others for more creative people. There may be some tests you enjoy and others you do not agree with as much. Take what is helpful from each but do not get caught up in the flurry of information. Here are a few helpful tips to remember while reading your results:

1. It's not about the identity - It is important to remember that the purpose of taking these tests is not to solidify an ego identity. In fact, depending on the day or what environment you are in before taking a test, your results very well may vary if you retake a test. Do not be caught up on the results, instead focus on the areas that resonate with you and see how you could apply them to your lif

2. Do Not Become One Sided - It can be easy to overly identify with the strengths of your given type while at the same time internalizing the weaknesses and letting them become “off limit” areas in your life. The tests are a tool to illuminate blind spots. Once you see what a personal weakness is, do not run from it or play the victim. Learn to recognize your weaknesses and come up with a plan to grow in those areas.

3. Apply the Information – When it comes to personality tests it can be enjoyable to simply read the results to get a little uplift and then go about your day. Though there is nothing wrong with this, if you only approach the knowledge you gain from this perspective you will miss out on the whole picture. It is important to take your time with the information and compare it to your life. Are you currently living a way that matches the picture of health for your type? If not, what are some areas you could shift? Take some time to journal or think over how to incorporate the material into your daily life.

As you learn about yourself you will more easily be able to connect to others and share your gifts, talents, and thoughts with the world. Let these resources be a pathway to deeper understanding and growth in your life.

-Alina Gersib