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Today, where we see every form of fashion on our streets, the question of men and shorts still produces uncertainty among many. There is a reason for this that is embedded in our DNA, and to fully understand we need to explore a little history.

“What are the main table manners children should know?” A common question I am frequently asked. Yet I have a tough time narrowing my answer. I pick my top three, then a fourth pops into my mind. Then a fifth. We may not all attend black-tie events, but we do all eat. Your children will one day be placed in a situation where they need to skillfully know their way around a dining table.

As we approach Mother’s Day, I would like to take a special look at the precious women in our lives that hold the title of Mother-in-law. Do you remember the movie Monster-in-Law? It starred Jennifer Lopez and Jane Fonda in a romantic comedy centered around the tumultuous relationship between a bride and her future mother-in-law. If you have not seen it, you should. It will keep you laughing but, sadly, may hit closer to home than you would like to admit.

I recently asked a group of college students these questions showing them the same photos. I had them shout out adjectives for the pictures they were viewing. For the home I heard: beautiful; wealthy; cared for; loving family; a place I want to live. For the broken-down home they said: old; no curb appeal; I wouldn’t go near it; scary; unstable.

“Rules without reason equals rebellion.” -Cynthia Grosso, Charleston School of Protocol. This could be my motto! I have a stubborn streak that can serve me well, but when it gets me into trouble, I just blame it on my DNA. No matter the reason, I am not the best rule follower unless I know why a rule was created. 

Remove your hat! Don’t set it on the table! Never let someone see the lining! Women, keep your hat on! Women, take your hat off! Ahhh…..I’m so confused!!! The old rules of hat etiquette were so straight forward, and everyone knew what to do. A gentleman removing his hat inside a building was as second nature as brushing his teeth. In today’s changing society, there is much confusion about hat etiquette, for both men and women, so let’s solve this mystery by starting with the “why” of hat protocol.

Do you find your spouse often saying, “Are you listening to me?” Or maybe you feel your child is not being an active part of the dinner conversation. If this resonates with you, it might be time to brush up on the finer points of being a good listener, while teaching your family to do the same. Below are 11 tips to help you get back on track so you can start enjoying deeper and more meaningful communication with those you love.

“Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.” (Proverbs 19:11 ESV).

 

When I am tired and my mind does not seem to focus on a deep study of the Bible, I will flip to Proverbs to keep focused on God’s Word in a more simplistic way. Yet, every time I read this book, I walk away amazed at the power it brings and thankful for the renewal I feel. The verse I read today really resonated with me.

As a stay-at-home mom to 2 toddlers, a large part of my day is spent in the kitchen preparing food. Meal planning at the beginning of the week is essential to ensuring my family is well fed with home cooked nutrition (I give myself a break on the weekends)! If you get overwhelmed with meal planning like I used to, try these tips to sooth your soul:

As a wife and mother of two rambunctious toddlers, it is a challenge to get a home-cooked dinner on the table at a reasonable time. Pulling the children away from their toys, getting them seated at the table, cutting up their meal, blowing on food that is too hot, and calling my husband away from his work can be exhausting.

Sometimes you just need to re-post tips that were great to read. I find myself saying this quite often when it comes to The Gottman Institute. They are some of the leading relationship experts in our country, and the research they did on trustworthiness is very informative.

Meeting friends for dinner after work, grabbing coffee with your girlfriend or just ordering pizza on a Friday night with neighbors. We all have a deep desire to be connected in a world that often forgets the importance of relationships. Many of us have the desire to entertain, but we let our circumstances keep us from extending hospitality. Often it revolves around our lack of confidence in our ability to host events. I get this!

A perfect entertaining year for me would be hosting a different themed party each month! Will I do that? No. Will I dream about it? Yes! If I cannot have a party every 4 weeks, I can at least help my Lisa Lou family with ideas so hopefully a few of you can carry the torch of hospitality for the rest of us.

You are not allowed to complain about not getting something that you never asked for. Read that again.

You are not allowed to complain about not getting something that you never asked for.

You are not allowed to complain about not getting something that you never asked for. Read that again.

You are not allowed to complain about not getting something that you never asked for.

  • Alina Gersib

7 Tips for Better Sleep


Whether your sleep has gotten off kilter from COVID or you are just looking for some added consistency to your day, having a nighttime routine will prepare your body, mind, and soul for some restorative rest. Most people say only add one new habit at a time. If this is a method that works for you, great, slowly incorporate the tips. However, if you want a total overhaul of your evenings, jump in with two feet and enjoy some well needed sleep.

1. Unplug

When we are on our phones, computers, or watching tv before bed, our brain is perceiving the blue light produced as sunshine. This light confusion is highly detrimental to our circadian rhythm and prevents our bodies from naturally producing melatonin and becoming sleepy after the sun sets. To minimize this affect, I try to avoid screens at least an hour before bed. Most experts recommend limiting exposure two to three hours before bed, which is ideal, but do what you can.

2. Plug Your Phone in, in Another Room

I find it helpful to charge my phone in another room at the beginning of my evening routine. This not only prevents any dings from going off which may interrupt my sleep, but it also keeps me from grabbing my phone first thing in the morning, which I am convinced makes me feel like I did not sleep as well the night before.

3. Brew A Warm Cup of Tea

There is something about the methodical process of preparing a cup of tea that calms my mind quickly. I enjoy selecting a tea, and then sitting and sipping on it while I do my evening journaling and reading.

4. Skin-Care Routine

While my tea is cooling down, I wash, tone, and begin applying various serums to my face. I have finally found clean products that work well with my skin and help me stay hydrated and healthy, and I find that doing them in segments, interspersed with other things, makes them more fun.

5. Curl Up with a Good Book

I enjoy spending a bit of time reading in the evenings. I usually stick to non-fiction, poetry, or short stories as fictional books cause me to become too immersed and stay up later than intended. As I am reading, I will jade roll my face with oils.

6. Briefly Journal and Brain Dump

Spending a few minutes writing gratitude, a thought, or even just lists of things I do not want to forget, tends to help me sleep better. If something is put down on paper my mind can relax and more easily sleep without feeling like I am forgetting something.

7. Stretch and Serums

After reading and writing and once the oils on my face have soaked in, I stretch while applying a few other products and enjoy the sensation of doing something good for both my skin as well as for my muscles and ligaments. Stretching before bed not only causes me to drop into the present moment but it also helps me work out any pain points before laying down for 8 hours.

These are the top things that help me sleep better, but I would love to hear if you have any tips you swear by that are not on the list! I definitely notice a huge difference in the quality of my sleep when I do not follow these steps, and I hope they can help you achieve a far better night’s rest as well.

Alina Gersib