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Do you believe there is a creator behind this painting, or did it create itself? I believe if I polled 1,000 people, 100% would say, “Of course, there is a creator. That’s common sense.” Do you believe there is a Creator behind this picture? If I polled 1,000 people with the same question, stats show I would not receive 100% agreement that there was a Creator behind this picture.

People are returning to work, which means many of us will be navigating changes that would otherwise seem mundane. Elevator etiquette? Did you know there was such a thing? Below are 9 basic reminders when riding the lift. I have thrown in a few exceptions while we live in a COVID world. 

Throughout history we have seen God place people in power that made us say, “What is He thinking?” Yet God clearly reminds us in Isaiah that the way He thinks is far beyond what we can sometimes understand. In a child’s eyes, a parent giving her yucky medicine when she already feels poorly can seem cruel. “Why would Mommy make me take this?” The child lives in her “here and now” moment of life, yet the parent sees the big picture. The mother knows what is best for the child, even when the child does not understand. 

Our 4-part series on living as Christians in a political world was written in response to questions I have been receiving on knowing how to separate truth from lies, when to engage in our political system, and the most effective way to stay informed. In Part 1 we learned the biblical formula for seeking truth. In Part 2 we discussed the importance of knowing your foundation. In this post, Part 3, I will provide you with 7 practical tips I use to find truth in our news driven world. 

We are living in a time where many do not know who or what to believe. It seems our national 24-hour news media seeks ratings more than they seek truth (regardless of which way their bias leans). Many journalists receive bonuses based on how many clicks their story receives, and companies earn more advertising revenue if they can show a high click-through rate on articles. It has become too common to read endless bait-and-switch headlines.

“How do I know what is real? How do I know truth when I see it? I want to stay informed, but where do I turn when I feel every news source is somehow deceiving me?”


Giving you tips on hosting a Halloween party during COVID is sure easier than tackling subjects on news, politics, and finding truth. Yet these are the questions filling my inbox. 

Does this blog seem early? Did you know we only have 10 weeks before we move into December? It is time to start planning!
1. Decide how much you can spend. If you have a $500 budget and 10 people you need to give gifts, then you can only spend $50 a person.

Halloween in 2020 will be different than past years, but there are still ways to enjoy this festive start to the holiday season. This blog may seem early, but October 31st is only 7 weeks away! It is time to start planning. Below are my top 10 ideas for a jovial and happy start to your fall celebrations.

Decor Ideas:
1. Use a decorative wine bucket filled with flowers as your table centerpiece. This works if you have a separate table where you will place the food. If the wine tasting is conducted at one table where your guests are sitting, then you need lower height decorations where everyone can see over the arrangements. Use wine glasses randomly placed down the table with sprigs of flowers in them. 

I had an interesting conversation with a friend today. Her son is in his 20s, and he made it to the final 3 for a job he is seeking. After a one-on-one interview with one of the executives, her son relayed an interesting conversation that had occurred. The executive told him, “You are smart, a go-getter and you know what you are doing, but the thing that has set you apart from the other two candidates is the way you dress."

“The hardest job kids have today is learning good manners…without seeing any.” Fred Astaire. 

 

Women have great influence in their family, and much of the work falls to us to provide each person with the tools they need to succeed. But how can we pass along knowledge that we do not possess? 

Having good manners is common sense. Learning to communicate those manners according to the rules of the road is what is known as etiquette. Put another way: etiquette is the language of manners. Etiquette and social skills are more than knowing which fork to use at dinner. It is understanding the words to speak and when to remain silent.

In Titus 2 God challenges women to mentor other ladies who are entering seasons of life those of us that are older have since passed through. We are to put our pride aside in the name of vulnerability so our friends can learn from our failures and successes. God calls us to teach and guide so “younger women will know how to love their husbands and children…keep a good house, be good wives.” 

 

WHAT??? You cannot be serious!

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A Modern Version of the Proverbs 31 Wife



In Titus 2 God challenges women to mentor other ladies who are entering seasons of life those of us that are older have since passed through. We are to put our pride aside in the name of vulnerability so our friends can learn from our failures and successes. God calls us to teach and guide so “younger women will know how to love their husbands and children…keep a good house, be good wives.”

WHAT??? You cannot be serious!

Before you search for the delete button, do not let the biblical words from more than 2,000 years ago cause your 21st century mind to scream, “Keep a good house?! When I have a business to run and children to raise?! Really?!” I would like to offer a modern-day interpretation of these biblical words so we can see the truth behind the Proverbs 31 woman.

I have grouped the below verses by category as opposed to chronological order and created titles that, in my opinion, summarize each theme. For full context of these verses, you should read Proverbs 31:10-31. Side note: King Lemuel is mentioned as the author of these passages, but many biblical scholars believe the author was King Solomon, thus making Bathsheba, Queen to King David, the mother in these verses. It is the mother who is imparting her sage advice to her son, Solomon.

Priceless!

“A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds.”

Women tend to search for the fairy tale. We want the knight. Men, on the other hand, search for a partner to “do life” with. They look for a woman they can trust to be by their side, to be their cheerleader and encourager. Someone who will overlook their faults and love them anyway. Most husbands will reveal they have more confidence in themselves when they know their wife is on their team. A woman who believes in her husband and lifts him up. If that support disappears, a man can feel insecure in his pursuits. A “good woman” is a lifeline for a man, thus being far greater than any diamond.

Trustworthy: “Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it.

Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long.” Just as we expect our husband’s to be trustworthy, so, too, do our husbands expect their wives to be trustworthy. There is no greater freedom within a marriage than when a man knows he can count on his wife to be there for the family. He knows she has his back even when it feels the world is against him. When a husband can rely on his wife there is a peace that permeates through him freeing him to focus on what God has called him to do.

Hard Worker:

“She shops around for the best yarns and cottons, and enjoys knitting and sewing.

She is skilled in the crafts of home and hearth, diligent in homemaking.

First thing in the morning, she dresses for work, rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started.

She keeps an eye on everyone in her household, and keeps them all busy and productive.”

During the days of Solomon women made the fabric and sewed the garments. To put this in context for today’s modern woman we are to be diligent in whatever task God has given us. We are not to waste our days. Whatever calling has been placed on our life (corporate businesswoman, full-time volunteer, stay-at-home mom) we are to be trained and skilled in this area and tackle the day head on. To summarize, we take care of our responsibilities and do not leave our work for someone else to do. We also ensure there are no idle hands in our home. Our son grew up hearing the phrase, “A tired boy is a good boy.” No idle hands were allowed.


Provider: “She’s up before dawn, preparing breakfast for her family and organizing her day.

She’s quick to assist anyone in need, reaches out to help the poor. She doesn’t worry about her family when it snows; their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear.” Women are natural nurturers. Like a mother bird in her nest, we want those in our care to be safely tucked under our wings. We watch out for our families and those in our sphere of influence. We make sure they are fed and are prepared for life’s storms. Our care is to extend beyond our family to those less fortunate. These verses remind us that showing hospitality to others is an important part of God’s will.

Businesswoman:

“She’s like a trading ship that sails to faraway places and brings back exotic surprises.

She designs gowns and sells them, brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops. She looks over a field and buys it, then, with money she’s put aside, plants a garden.

She senses the worth of her work, is in no hurry to call it quits for the day.”

This section may be my favorite, because it speaks directly to those of us who work outside the home. This biblical wife has business smarts and she is not afraid to use her knowledge to influence the world around her. She is a fashion designer and a saleswoman. She is a real estate investor and a farmer. She is confident and knows her value in the world, and she uses her skills to provide for her family.

Elegant: “She makes her own clothing, and dresses in colorful linens and silks.

Her clothes are well-made and elegant, and she always faces tomorrow with a smile. When she speaks, she has something worthwhile to say, and she always says it kindly.”

During King Solomon’s time linens and silk were expensive items. The Proverb’s wife knows her importance! She takes care of herself, and she presents a good image. As a provider and protector of her family, she knows she must be able to influence those around her to achieve her objectives. Her internal and external image are important in accomplishing this goal. She maintains her health. (Important note: As women, we are pulled in many directions. We serve others first, and if anything remains, we take the leftovers. If we do not take time to recharge our batteries, we cannot fully be present in the lives of those closest to us. Our tanks will be drained and there will be nothing left to give. There are seasons of life where this is more difficult, but never feel guilty for giving yourself a break.) The Proverbs woman also commands attention. When we speak, people should stop to listen, because our words are worthy. We should speak from a place of strength yet always showing civility.


Queen Bee: “Her husband is greatly respected when he deliberates with the city fathers. Her children respect and bless her; her husband joins in with words of praise: ‘Many women have done wonderful things, but you’ve outclassed them all!’ Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God. Give her everything she deserves! Festoon her life with praises!”

When we enter marriage, we become partners with our husband. A man that has a wife as described in Proverbs is a man that will be greatly respected because, SHE is greatly respected. As covenant partners we become a reflection of each other. My husband’s reputation will affect me, and my reputation will affect him. A Proverbs 31 wife is respected by her family and community, but she works hard to earn that respect. We all love to be praised, but the words I love to hear most come from my family when they shout, “You are awesome!”

When our son was growing up, we taught him the traits he should look for when searching for a wife. We explained there are diamonds and rhinestones in the world. Both will shine brightly, but the rhinestone is only an imitation of the diamond. It is fake, weak, and will eventually lose its luster. Whereas the diamond is beautiful, strong, and will last a lifetime. “How do I find the diamond,” he asked. “Son, you must search the heart. When you see the beauty of God shining back at you, then you will know you have found your diamond.”

To be a Proverbs wife means many things, but most importantly, it means putting God first in our lives. It is only through him that we have the tools to tackle each day. He shows us grace when we forget to pack school lunches. He calms our nerves when our patience runs out. He holds us up when we cry out, “I cannot take another step!” God does not call us to be a perfect wife or mom. If we had this ability, then why do we need a Savior? The call from God is to put him first. When we do, things that once seemed important suddenly begin to fade. They lose their appeal because they were not worthy pursuits.

When I dwell on the verses in Proverbs 31 my take-away is to seek Him first, and when we do, everything else falls into place. Then, and only then, will our name be praised!

Together with you,

Lisa Lou

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