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As Texas plunged into single digits with multiple days of a windchill below freezing, millions found themselves stranded with no power or water. Living along the Gulf Coast we have weathered hurricanes and endured power outages for much longer periods, but somehow this seemed different. Maybe for those of us close to the shoreline it was the unusual sight of snow we experienced as opposed to the natural disasters we usually face that arrive with rain, wind, and sweltering heat.

Our son and daughter (in law) were finally able to take a long-overdue honeymoon to St. Lucia in December. Cecelia interned one summer for a travel agent so naturally called the company to book their trip. What an incredible experience they had, and I was reminded WHY using a travel agent is worth the expense. Fees range depending on the service, but most charge between $300-350 to plan a vacation somewhere in the Caribbean Islands. 

Q: I will be a new mom soon, and I have been preparing for life “after” a newborn. There is a lot of information on raising babies, and how dads can support mom, but I cannot find much on how moms can support dads. A lot of my mental preparation has been around my marriage. Specific questions: How do I preserve my marriage? How do we embrace the changes? How do I maintain my husband as a priority when we have a tiny human demanding everything? How can I help my husband bond with our new child?

Want to set your children up for success? Then look no further than the habits of successful people you know, whether that be in the corporate world, media, or within your own circle of friends. Experts agree that there are certain common traits all successful people possess. This is great news because it means we can emulate those leaders that have come before us. 

How can you tell if someone will be successful? When I was in high school, they still had a category for a graduating senior titled: Voted Most Likely to Succeed. How, at 18-years-old, could classmates look at someone and say, “Yeah, I think they will be the most successful person in our graduating class.”

Many of us grew up learning multitasking was a hallmark of a productive person. While sounding good in theory, this practice has proven to be incorrect. Studies now reveal that multitasking is nothing more than switching back and forth between tasks and it lowers our productivity. Below are 5 points that deal with the facts behind project hopping and the lack of performance that occurs when we allow seemingly innocuous interruptions to occur in daily life.

The way my husband structures his day is different from how I organize mine, but there is one thing we both do. We start with a morning routine. I make coffee, read the news while eating my breakfast, and then dive into an hour of bible study. Once I finish, I pull out my journal and plan my day. About 2 years ago I discovered an organizational method that resonated with me.

Remember as children, during holidays, we would spend what seemed like hours creating homemade craft projects for our parents? It might be a paper Christmas snowflake sprinkled with glitter or a cutout heart for Valentine’s Day. We would address it: To: Mom or To: Dad. We would sign our name, and this become the gift we gave our parents. The act of giving is how we should view all letters, especially a thank you note. We may not be cutting out cute hearts, but when we take time to put pen to paper and share a little of ourselves with someone else, we are giving a part of our heart to another.  

People give to make you feel loved and remembered. Sometimes gifts are given out of obligation, but mostly they are presented to honor a special relationship or occasion. No matter the reason, we need to know how to show our appreciation. Here are my 7 tips to become a gracious gift receiver.  

Table manners seem to be the area in which I receive most of my questions, but it is introductions that have people the most baffled. After I explain the correct way to conduct an introduction, I often get that starry-eyed stare that tells me, “I really don’t understand what you just said.” To help all of us, I have broken down the process into a simple format. Before I proceed, let me say this. Do not let a lack of confidence in handling an introduction keep you from DOING an introduction.

I recently bumped into a friend at the store, and as we began talking, she expressed how she struggles with the holidays. When January rolls around, she feels like she somehow “missed out.” I understand this feeling because I, too, have often felt this way. Life was so busy with the preparation of celebration, that I missed the joy that awaited each of us this time of year.

Have you ever seen someone walk into a party that looked scared to death, unsure of themselves, and then watched them slink off to an obscure corner? Their body language screaming, “I wish I was anywhere but here!” Entering a room full of people that you do not know can be intimidating. I get that. Yet, your entrance is important in displaying overall confidence and portraying a strong image.

Giving a party, of any type, requires a great deal of work. If you have been fortunate enough to be included in a festive soiree, it is nice to arrive with a gift for the hostess. The typical present will cost between $15-$30, but there are less expensive things you can find at the local discount store.

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A Woman’s Influence on Her Family



(Left to Right): Christopher and Lisa Zook. Cecelia and Christopher Zook, Jr. (And Colonel! Louie didn’t make the cut. He was too squirmy.)


“When I was a young man, I wanted to change the world. I found it was difficult to change the world, so I tried to change my nation. When I found I could not change the nation, I began to focus on my town. I could not change the town, so I tried to change my family. Now, as an old man, I realize the only thing I can change is myself, and suddenly I realize that if long ago I had changed myself, I could have made an impact on my family. My family and I could have made an impact on our town. Their impact could have changed the nation and I could indeed have changed the world.” –An Unknown Monk (1100 A.D.)

Learning to juggle responsibilities of a career, volunteer duties, friendships, and family can be a herculean task. As we navigate adult life, we need to remind ourselves our activities outside our family should not cause us to neglect our responsibilities to our family. As women, it is a top priority to protect the interests of those under our protection, and the most sacred place we do this is within the 4 walls where we live. As the unknown Monk said, if we can create healthy families, we can change the world.

My husband and I mentor newly married couples, and we notice most brides catch something from each other. It is called the nesting bug. Sharing the same season of life with other ladies elevates this gathering instinct, but I am here to state, the desire to nest is very real. God has placed this in our hearts, and it should not be ignored. Proverbs 31 is often quoted as an example of the godly woman. One of the verses shows how she effectively cares for her family.

Lisa Lou’s maternal great grandparents.


As we begin to build our homes, the responsibilities can seem overwhelming. We look for guidance in our moms or grandmothers, but often wonder, “How did she do it?” We need to give ourselves a little break, because the examples we watch in our mentors are of ladies that have been on the job for many years. They, too, learned through trial and error.

With fulltime careers, many women struggle to balance what the perception of family life should be verses reality. The Instagram pictures and Pinterest boards of designer homes flood our minds. We envision 5-star homecooked meals. Our perfect ending to a long day is settling down with our recently betrothed to unwind with a glass of wine while sharing experiences from our day and dreaming about the 1.5 children we will one day call our own. As an empty nester married more than 3 decades, I can confidently say this perfect scenario is rare.

A more realistic day looks like this: Traffic causes you to arrive home late so the dog did not have his routine potty break. You are greeted at the door with a pile of poo you barely step over while at the same time realizing you forgot to thaw the chicken for tonight’s dinner. You can either eat late or order take-out…again. The laundry you put in the dryer before leaving for work is still wet, leaving the clothes wrinkled. They will require extra ironing. If you have children, they are starved for your attention. You hand off the crying baby to your husband when he arrives home (he was late, too) so you can help little Johnny with his homework. After everyone is fed, bathed, and in bed, you have a few minutes to yourself, but you are so tired, you close your eyes, drift off to sleep, and dream about the “perfect” home life you are determined to create.

When the honeymoon is over, the routine of life takes hold, and responsibilities begin to pile up. Women can feel overwhelmed with family life and what they perceive it takes to manage a godly home. They can also feel pressure from the outside world that tells them other pursuits (more important agendas) should fill their time. It becomes an internal game of tug-of-war. This is when we stop, take a breath, realign our priorities, and remind ourselves family and home are designed by God to be the primary place we meet our needs. And as wives and moms, we are part of the lifeblood that flows through our family.

Homes should be a refuge from the world. It is the place we need to feel safe and loved. It is where we learn, grow, and establish relationships. When the home is a place of protection, it will successfully serve as ground zero. It will become a place to teach and train our families, where we grow and learn, where we share laughter, sorrows, play games, struggle through homework, and engage in disagreements and arguments. Home is where we shape the personalities and beliefs of our children and learn to become partners with our spouse. It is where we heal the sick, nourish our bodies, and celebrate milestones. The Oxford dictionary states, “Home is where something flourishes.” Simply put, the home is where we “do life.” The influence a woman yields in her house is powerful as she creates, guides, and leads the personality of her family. God has placed us in a position of honor and authority, but it comes with responsibility, and it should not be taken lightly.

Although that yearning desire to establish our families and our home can lead to attention distracting pursuits of beautiful furniture, top notch appliances, and impeccable landscaping, it is important we remember our homes are to be used to minister to our families, and the physical building in which we dwell should not be seen as the ultimate goal in creating our storybook life. If we do this, we will have turned those four walls into an idol that replaces the purpose of home.

Whether you are the main provider, a single mother, or the always-on-the-go volunteer, it is important to remember our priority is within our family. No one can serve two masters, and as a modern woman living in the world, we must never lose sight of this fact.

To make sure there is no misunderstanding, becoming the embodiment of Martha Stewart is not required to have healthy and functioning families. Nor should it be our goal (unless you are naturally gifted in this way). I rarely cook, I do not enjoy yard work, and I will NOT pick up dead bugs in my house! What I can do, though, is provide a refuge for my family, create a place for them to grow and learn, and equip them with the tools they need to face the challenges of the world. I can prepare my children to stand on their own, and I can be a partner with my husband.

I can also work to make our home a place of hospitality for others. These four walls in which we live may not be ideal. Our dinners might be burned, our bedrooms left messy, but love of family covers up a lot of mistakes. When our children leave home, they will not remember if their 5th birthday party was perfect. In fact, they probably will not remember it at all. What they will remember is the love you poured into them and the legacy they will carry in their hearts of a godly woman they call blessed.

Together with you,

Lisa Lou

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