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Mother’s Day is quickly approaching! As a busy mom, Mother’s Day can sneak up on you with the chaos of end of the year school activities, home projects, and travel plans. Moms have a heart of gold and do not have expectations of presents, but we still love the gesture of gifting to make the day special and show our appreciation for everything she does for the family.

“We read a lot of articles and books about how to get through the engagement process, but no one ever talked to us about what it would be like the first year of our marriage. I wish we had known what to expect,” said one of the couples my husband and I mentor. This is a common comment, and if you find yourself having similar feelings, do not fret! You are not alone. The first year of marriage is fabulous, but it can also be difficult. Two people learning to become one does not happen overnight.

We all like to think we have good manners in marriage, but with the people that are closest to us, we can sometimes find ourselves slipping a bit. As stated by Cindy Grosso of the Charleston School of Protocol, manners are not about a bunch of rules. Manners are the outward manifestation of the condition of our heart. If we have a heart that loves, honors, respects, and cherishes our spouse, then these traits will show in how we behave.

Society is opening and people are resuming long overdue vacations. This is great news! I recently posted some tips on making your travels successful, but let’s focus on dos and don’ts of traveling with friends.

 

1. Boundaries: When traveling with others, set guidelines, boundaries, and expectations before leaving town. If you know you and your husband want one night to yourselves, express this up front. If a quiet breakfast in bed is necessary to start your day, see if this fits with the group’s schedule. 

The world is opening, and it is time to celebrate! One of the first things people are doing as they exercise their recaptured freedom is heading out of town to new destinations. I thought a few refresher tips on travel might be good for all of us.

Walking into the room, my husband pauses in front of the TV. Turning to me with a spoiler alert about my favorite Hallmark movie he says, “Hey Lisa…they get married.” And you know what? He’s right! The girl found her prince charming, and the couple has a happy ending, every time.

How many mornings have we left home in a state of utter chaos? Breakfast was late, children were crying, and we hurriedly throw on clothes from the night before only to realize how wrinkled we look. This mad dash makes for an unpleasant parting from our family and it is usually caused by a disorganized approach to our routine. So much of the bedlam we experience at the beginning of the day can be avoided if we are willing to implement a few tasks the night before.

The mamor (mother-in-law) and damor (daughter-in-law) relationship is meant to be beautiful and strong. In parts 1 and 2 of our series we learned why women in these roles might have certain feelings in their new family dynamics. Once we learned the “why” we then explored practical steps we can take to strengthen these special bonds. As we bring our series to a close, I want to impart some words of wisdom we all need to hear, and be reminded of, to ensure we create a healthy, life-long bond between the mamor/damor.

In part one of our series on the mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship we learned why the women who find themselves in these roles often experience emotions ranging from pure joy to hurt and sadness. Once we discovered the answers, our understanding of this special relationship came into focus. We had an “aha” moment which makes our path forward easier to navigate.

Do you remember the movie Monster-in-Law? It starred Jennifer Lopez and Jane Fonda in a romantic comedy centered around the tumultuous relationship between a bride and her future mother-in-law. If you have not seen it, you should. It will keep you laughing but, sadly, may hit closer to home than you would like to admit.

As Texas plunged into single digits with multiple days of a windchill below freezing, millions found themselves stranded with no power or water. Living along the Gulf Coast we have weathered hurricanes and endured power outages for much longer periods, but somehow this seemed different. Maybe for those of us close to the shoreline it was the unusual sight of snow we experienced as opposed to the natural disasters we usually face that arrive with rain, wind, and sweltering heat.

Our son and daughter (in law) were finally able to take a long-overdue honeymoon to St. Lucia in December. Cecelia interned one summer for a travel agent so naturally called the company to book their trip. What an incredible experience they had, and I was reminded WHY using a travel agent is worth the expense. Fees range depending on the service, but most charge between $300-350 to plan a vacation somewhere in the Caribbean Islands. 

Q: I will be a new mom soon, and I have been preparing for life “after” a newborn. There is a lot of information on raising babies, and how dads can support mom, but I cannot find much on how moms can support dads. A lot of my mental preparation has been around my marriage. Specific questions: How do I preserve my marriage? How do we embrace the changes? How do I maintain my husband as a priority when we have a tiny human demanding everything? How can I help my husband bond with our new child?

Want to set your children up for success? Then look no further than the habits of successful people you know, whether that be in the corporate world, media, or within your own circle of friends. Experts agree that there are certain common traits all successful people possess. This is great news because it means we can emulate those leaders that have come before us. 

Many of us grew up learning multitasking was a hallmark of a productive person. While sounding good in theory, this practice has proven to be incorrect. Studies now reveal that multitasking is nothing more than switching back and forth between tasks and it lowers our productivity. Below are 5 points that deal with the facts behind project hopping and the lack of performance that occurs when we allow seemingly innocuous interruptions to occur in daily life.

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BBQ Chicken Taste Test

Updated: Jul 10, 2020



Happy Foodie Friday! This recipe review and taste test comes courtesy of Penny and Eleazar Martinez.

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Each of our Taste Test Reviews comes with the original recipe and the tester's notes/changes listed with the ingredient list in blue. We hope you enjoy!


This Barbeque Chicken was seriously flavor-packed. Between the Texas Rub and the BBQ sauce you’re in for a real treat. When you’re seasoning the meat, if you intend to let it sit and marinate for a bit, lower the amount of rub you add. The Salt-Grass Steakhouse seasoning we used called for a 30-minute marinade, however with the full amount added the chicken ended up quite a bit on the salty side. In fact, if you use a rub with salt, it is best to put it on right before cooking. Salt can dry out your meat. So, either pop the chicken on to the grill really quickly or lower the amount of seasoning if you’re going to let it sit and marinade.



We bought a full chicken to be able to try a variety of cuts. Both of us liked the chicken breast and drumsticks the most. The wings and thighs ended up so salty from the marinade that we’re thinking they’ll make a great addition to a big salad later this week! If you buy a pack of either thighs or wings to cook, we recommend lowering the amount of seasoning that you apply. If you buy a full chicken, when you’re washing the chicken be sure to have paper towels near you and already ripped off the roll as you don’t want to drip any chicken juice on the floor. Second, after cutting it up, instead of throwing away the scraps like the ribs and bottom you can freeze these to use as a base for stock in the future.



Make sure the grill temperature is around 400-450F before putting the chicken on or else it will cook too slowly. It will get tough on the outside while the inside is left undone. We let the meat sizzle for 6 minutes and 30 seconds on each side before checking the internal temperature. The wings and thighs hit 165F quickly, but the breasts and drumsticks took a little bit longer. Keep monitoring the chicken until it hits that magic number. Make sure you check each piece of meat at the thickest point and right next to a bone as this area takes longer to cook. After you pull them off, try them before adding BBQ sauce and then enjoy!



BBQ Chicken - July 4th Outdoor Party
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Serves 12

Preparation: 45 minutes

Cook time: 15 minutes


Ingredients

4 pounds, 8 pieces cut chicken on the bone (Whole chicken cut up, or your favorite cut of bone-in chicken)

1 cup Texas-Rub spice (Recommend halfling this amount)

1 cup olive oil

Kansas City BBQ sauce (or your favorite brand)

Salt and pepper, to taste (Check your dry rub flavor before adding extra)

Cilantro or Parsley for garnish

Preparation

Wash your chicken under running water, pat dry and place in a large bowl.

Add remaining ingredients and mix all together until chicken is coated.

Cook the chicken on a hot grill (At least 400F) or in an oven at 375F for 30 minutes, or until chicken pieces reach internal temperature of 165F. (If grilling, let sit 6 minutes 30 seconds before flipping to the second side for the same amount of time. Then check the internal temperature)

Place cooked chicken in a clean, large mixing bowl and pour BBQ sauce to taste.

Toss well until chicken is nicely coated.

Garnish with chopped cilantro or parsley.




Recipe and Taste Tester - Alina Gersib