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Society is opening and people are resuming long overdue vacations. This is great news! I recently posted some tips on making your travels successful, but let’s focus on dos and don’ts of traveling with friends.

 

1. Boundaries: When traveling with others, set guidelines, boundaries, and expectations before leaving town. If you know you and your husband want one night to yourselves, express this up front. If a quiet breakfast in bed is necessary to start your day, see if this fits with the group’s schedule. 

The world is opening, and it is time to celebrate! One of the first things people are doing as they exercise their recaptured freedom is heading out of town to new destinations. I thought a few refresher tips on travel might be good for all of us.

Walking into the room, my husband pauses in front of the TV. Turning to me with a spoiler alert about my favorite Hallmark movie he says, “Hey Lisa…they get married.” And you know what? He’s right! The girl found her prince charming, and the couple has a happy ending, every time.

How many mornings have we left home in a state of utter chaos? Breakfast was late, children were crying, and we hurriedly throw on clothes from the night before only to realize how wrinkled we look. This mad dash makes for an unpleasant parting from our family and it is usually caused by a disorganized approach to our routine. So much of the bedlam we experience at the beginning of the day can be avoided if we are willing to implement a few tasks the night before.

The mamor (mother-in-law) and damor (daughter-in-law) relationship is meant to be beautiful and strong. In parts 1 and 2 of our series we learned why women in these roles might have certain feelings in their new family dynamics. Once we learned the “why” we then explored practical steps we can take to strengthen these special bonds. As we bring our series to a close, I want to impart some words of wisdom we all need to hear, and be reminded of, to ensure we create a healthy, life-long bond between the mamor/damor.

In part one of our series on the mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship we learned why the women who find themselves in these roles often experience emotions ranging from pure joy to hurt and sadness. Once we discovered the answers, our understanding of this special relationship came into focus. We had an “aha” moment which makes our path forward easier to navigate.

Do you remember the movie Monster-in-Law? It starred Jennifer Lopez and Jane Fonda in a romantic comedy centered around the tumultuous relationship between a bride and her future mother-in-law. If you have not seen it, you should. It will keep you laughing but, sadly, may hit closer to home than you would like to admit.

As Texas plunged into single digits with multiple days of a windchill below freezing, millions found themselves stranded with no power or water. Living along the Gulf Coast we have weathered hurricanes and endured power outages for much longer periods, but somehow this seemed different. Maybe for those of us close to the shoreline it was the unusual sight of snow we experienced as opposed to the natural disasters we usually face that arrive with rain, wind, and sweltering heat.

Our son and daughter (in law) were finally able to take a long-overdue honeymoon to St. Lucia in December. Cecelia interned one summer for a travel agent so naturally called the company to book their trip. What an incredible experience they had, and I was reminded WHY using a travel agent is worth the expense. Fees range depending on the service, but most charge between $300-350 to plan a vacation somewhere in the Caribbean Islands. 

Q: I will be a new mom soon, and I have been preparing for life “after” a newborn. There is a lot of information on raising babies, and how dads can support mom, but I cannot find much on how moms can support dads. A lot of my mental preparation has been around my marriage. Specific questions: How do I preserve my marriage? How do we embrace the changes? How do I maintain my husband as a priority when we have a tiny human demanding everything? How can I help my husband bond with our new child?

Want to set your children up for success? Then look no further than the habits of successful people you know, whether that be in the corporate world, media, or within your own circle of friends. Experts agree that there are certain common traits all successful people possess. This is great news because it means we can emulate those leaders that have come before us. 

Many of us grew up learning multitasking was a hallmark of a productive person. While sounding good in theory, this practice has proven to be incorrect. Studies now reveal that multitasking is nothing more than switching back and forth between tasks and it lowers our productivity. Below are 5 points that deal with the facts behind project hopping and the lack of performance that occurs when we allow seemingly innocuous interruptions to occur in daily life.

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Halloween Fun During COVID



Murder Mystery Dinner with Friends


Halloween in 2020 will be different than past years, but there are still ways to enjoy this festive start to the holiday season. This blog may seem early, but October 31st is only 7 weeks away! It is time to start planning. Below are my top 10 ideas for a jovial and happy start to your fall celebrations.


1. Decorate: I always feel “in the moment” when I put the final touches on my Christmas decorating. Halloween is no different. In fact, go bigger this year. Hang lights on the trees and fill your porch with jack-o-lanterns you and the family have carved.


2. Murder Mystery Dinner: This is my favorite party to host. You can find these dinner party games online. Make this event as formal or casual as you wish. The key to success? Your guests need to be good sports. Introverts do not work as well when you are asking everyone to step out of their comfort zone and play a character. But ohhhh, this party is a blast! Is it safe during these times? That is up for you to decide (and based on your state’s regulations). For most of the games you only need 10 people, so this party works well in a COVID world.


3. Scavenger Hunt: There are numerous options online for scavenger hunts. You can do this with your family or gather a few neighborhood friends. This type of outing allows you to social distance, but still gather in small groups. Once the hunt has concluded, have everyone return to your front yard. Gather outside for cookies and drinks. Remember to have prizes for the winners!


4. Cookies and Cheer: Decorate Halloween themed cookies with your children. Take this a step further. Let the children dress up and deliver these treats to neighbors and friends. Everyone loves a random act of kindness.


5. Scary Movie: Who does not love this! Build a fort inside, pop some popcorn, and watch an age-appropriate Halloween movie.


6. Fire and Stars: Host family and friends, with whom you are comfortable socializing, and have an outdoor campfire. Roast marshmallows and hot dogs and tell stories. If you have a telescope, do a little celestial gazing. I find there is nothing more mysterious about God’s world than when I stare into His star-studded sky.


7. Driveway Treats: If you have an active neighborhood with a lot of children, organize your block for Halloween. Have each family set up a table with Halloween candy and treats. The neighborhood children can go driveway to driveway. Have bags pre-made with goodies inside each package. Ask an adult from each home to hand a bag to the child. This avoids dirty hands digging into baskets.


8. Haunted House: Yes, there are social distancing haunted houses! In many cities drive-thru exhibits are popping up. Check your local listings.


9. Pumpkin Carving Contests: This is a blast and is something the adults can do. It takes two people. One person is the carver. The other person stands facing the carver and describes the carver’s face. The carver must follow the verbal directions of the describer and carve a pumpkin to reflect what the talker is describing. The trick? The carver does not know the talker is describing the carver’s face. As you can imagine, the end results are hilarious. Oh, and the describer has a sheet of paper or clipboard they hold so the carver does not know there is not a drawing of a face that the describer is describing. Of course, you could print out real faces to describe, but it is more fun to have the carver create his own face on the pumpkin (without knowing!). Have prizes for the best and worst likeness.


10. Floral Pumpkins: My son and I made these when he was in elementary school and gave them to each of his teachers. Find smaller pumpkins. Cut the top and remove the insides. Place a floral foam piece inside soaked in water. Buy cut flowers and make a floral arrangement. These are sweet gifts and a great way to have fun with these beautiful fall gourds.


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Lisa Lou

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