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When attending a party, there are certain expectations we have of our hostess. We will enjoy and appreciate everything she has done, but we do assume there will be food and drinks. We would also like a clean bathroom and a home that does not smell like the local pet store. What some people forget is there are also expectations of the guest.

Giving a party, of any type, requires a great deal of work. If you have been fortunate enough to be included in a festive soiree, it is nice to arrive with a gift for the hostess. The typical present will cost between $15-$30, but there are less expensive things you can find at the local discount store.

Attire: Shabby Chic; Razzle Dazzle; Cowboy Couture


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Word to hostesses: when listing the attire on the invitation for your party, make it clear. Do not let your creative thoughts have you writing a description that requires an interpreter.  We do not want to force our guests to solve a riddle to understand what is expected of them. There is a phrase I like to quote, “To be unclear is to be unkind.”

There is something special we feel when we receive an invitation. It is the anticipation of a celebration, the excitement of choosing what to wear, but more importantly, it is the affirmation that tells us, “I was chosen!” We know a hostess has responsibilities to ensure her party is a success, but did you know there are expectations of the guests? And your first job begins when you receive an invitation that says RSVP.

Do you believe there is a creator behind this painting, or did it create itself? I believe if I polled 1,000 people, 100% would say, “Of course, there is a creator. That’s common sense.” Do you believe there is a Creator behind this picture? If I polled 1,000 people with the same question, stats show I would not receive 100% agreement that there was a Creator behind this picture.

People are returning to work, which means many of us will be navigating changes that would otherwise seem mundane. Elevator etiquette? Did you know there was such a thing? Below are 9 basic reminders when riding the lift. I have thrown in a few exceptions while we live in a COVID world. 

Throughout history we have seen God place people in power that made us say, “What is He thinking?” Yet God clearly reminds us in Isaiah that the way He thinks is far beyond what we can sometimes understand. In a child’s eyes, a parent giving her yucky medicine when she already feels poorly can seem cruel. “Why would Mommy make me take this?” The child lives in her “here and now” moment of life, yet the parent sees the big picture. The mother knows what is best for the child, even when the child does not understand. 

Our 4-part series on living as Christians in a political world was written in response to questions I have been receiving on knowing how to separate truth from lies, when to engage in our political system, and the most effective way to stay informed. In Part 1 we learned the biblical formula for seeking truth. In Part 2 we discussed the importance of knowing your foundation. In this post, Part 3, I will provide you with 7 practical tips I use to find truth in our news driven world. 

We are living in a time where many do not know who or what to believe. It seems our national 24-hour news media seeks ratings more than they seek truth (regardless of which way their bias leans). Many journalists receive bonuses based on how many clicks their story receives, and companies earn more advertising revenue if they can show a high click-through rate on articles. It has become too common to read endless bait-and-switch headlines.

“How do I know what is real? How do I know truth when I see it? I want to stay informed, but where do I turn when I feel every news source is somehow deceiving me?”


Giving you tips on hosting a Halloween party during COVID is sure easier than tackling subjects on news, politics, and finding truth. Yet these are the questions filling my inbox. 

Does this blog seem early? Did you know we only have 10 weeks before we move into December? It is time to start planning!
1. Decide how much you can spend. If you have a $500 budget and 10 people you need to give gifts, then you can only spend $50 a person.

Halloween in 2020 will be different than past years, but there are still ways to enjoy this festive start to the holiday season. This blog may seem early, but October 31st is only 7 weeks away! It is time to start planning. Below are my top 10 ideas for a jovial and happy start to your fall celebrations.

Decor Ideas:
1. Use a decorative wine bucket filled with flowers as your table centerpiece. This works if you have a separate table where you will place the food. If the wine tasting is conducted at one table where your guests are sitting, then you need lower height decorations where everyone can see over the arrangements. Use wine glasses randomly placed down the table with sprigs of flowers in them. 

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Social Guidelines for Wearing a Hat

Updated: Jun 29


Remove your hat! Don’t set it on the table! Never let someone see the lining! Women, keep your hat on! Women, take your hat off! Ahhh…..I’m so confused!!! The old rules of hat etiquette were so straight forward, and everyone knew what to do. A gentleman removing his hat inside a building was as second nature as brushing his teeth. In today’s changing society, there is much confusion about hat etiquette, for both men and women, so let’s solve this mystery by starting with the “why” of hat protocol.

The purpose of a hat was to keep you warm and the sun off your face. It also served as a barrier to dirt and dust. Imagine walking down a road where horses and carriages were passing. The amount of grit tossed in the air meant those walking nearby were coated in a layer of grime. The brim of a hat functioned to keep dirt and water away from the head and face. So, we see the hat had a purpose other than style.

We now understand the purpose of a hat, but why was it proper for men to remove their hat when entering a building? For the simple reason that the hat was usually dirty. If a man were to leave his hat on while sitting at the dining table, dirt and dust would fall from the brim onto the table. Or worse, onto his tablemate’s food.

Today, if you walked into a restaurant with a trench coat covered in rainwater and dirt, would you keep it on at the dining table? No. You would likely remove it at the door of the restaurant and retrieve it upon leaving.

If you are working in the yard before dinner, do you wash your hands before sitting down at the table? Yes. Why? You do not want to contaminate your food.

A man removing his hat, especially in the industrial era, was a matter of personal hygiene.

Why were women not required to remove their hats? Because their hat usually served a different role. A woman’s hat could be used to keep the elements off her head, but they were more for fashion. They were also used for modesty reasons. In some religions a head covering was (and still is) required for all women.

Some female hats had brims, but others were just caps that coordinated with an outfit. Hat pins, ribbons and bows were used to secure them in place. For a woman to remove her hat was a big ordeal. It did not come off easily. The purpose of a woman’s hat was not for hygiene (although it did protect from the sun and could keep her head warm), it was primarily for fashion. Therefore, women were exempt from removing their hat.



Now that we understand the background as to how hat etiquette originated, we need to know what is expected of us today.

Here is the simple breakdown.

Men still need to remove their hat when entering a building. If you are simply walking through a corridor, an interior pass through or a public place, you may leave your hat on. Once you enter an area where you will be staying (office, restaurant, theatre), remove your hat.

“Do I remove my hat at the dinner table?” If you are expected to remove your hat when you enter an establishment, then, yes, your hat stays off at the dinner table. Your hat should be off before you approach the dinner table, since you would have removed it as soon as you entered the building.

Other places you are expected to remove your hat:

1. Places of worship (unless your religion requires you wear head covering)

2. When you stand for the National Anthem (if you are attending an outdoor baseball game, you are probably wearing a hat, therefore remove it during the anthem)

3. Whenever the U.S. or state flags pass by (as in a color guard ceremony)

4. During a funeral procession (even if you are outdoors)

5. During a prayer at an event (even if outside, the hat is removed during a prayer)

6. Weddings (during an outside wedding hats are removed)

7. Dedications (inside or outside, the hat is removed during a dedication)

8. Photographs (if a picture is being taken of you remove your hat)

9. When you are being introduced to someone (this is a sign of respect)

How to take your hat off when greeting someone:

Remove the hat with your left hand so your right hand is free to shake. Place the hat lining towards your body so only the outside of your hat is visible to those around you.

Where to put your hat during the anthem (or another ceremonial event):

Remove your hat with your right hand and place your hat over your heart. You may also place your hat on a chair. It’s up to you.

When entering an establishment, ask if they have a hat rack. If not, place your hat on a nearby chair. Do not put your hat on a table. Why? For the same reason women should never put their purse on a table. Hygiene! ( https://www.today.com/health/your-gross-handbag-germier-toilet-1C10120964 )

If you are taking your hat off to greet someone, and then putting it right back on, how do you hold your hat? Remove the hat with your left hand and keep the lining of the hat facing toward you. The inside of your hat probably has dirt rings. No reason to show this to others.

Most hat rules for men have not changed throughout history. The biggest change in hat etiquette has come for women. Women are still not required to remove their hat when they enter a building, unless they are wearing a unisex covering. An example would be a baseball cap. This is a type of hat that can be worn by both men and women; therefore, a woman is expected to remove this type of hat. The easiest way to remember this is when wearing a unisex hat, women should follow the same rules as men. Example: If a woman is attending a ballgame in her baseball cap and the national anthem is played, she should remove her hat. Why? She is wearing a unisex covering.


Overall, women still have more leeway than men when it comes to hat etiquette. A decorative hat, for example, does not need to be removed. A unisex hat does need to be removed.

The exception to this is if your fashionable hat has a wide brim and will obstruct someone’s view. If you are attending a theatre performance, remove your hat if it interferes with other’s ability to see. Side note: Wide brimmed hats are meant for daytime. Why? A wide brim was used to keep the sun off your face. If it is evening, then the purpose of the wide brim is no longer relevant. So, if you are attending a theatre performance in the evening, you should not have a problem with your hat interfering with others if you stick to the protocol that brims are only for daytime.

Let’s wrap this up and make it simple. Men, remove your hats. Women, remove your unisex hats. If you can’t remember…remove your hat.

Together with you,

Lisa Lou

(The above points are for civilian men and women. Military protocol regarding head coverings are quite different.)

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