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Have you ever seen someone walk into a party that looked scared to death, unsure of themselves, and then watched them slink off to an obscure corner? Their body language screaming, “I wish I was anywhere but here!” Entering a room full of people that you do not know can be intimidating. I get that. Yet, your entrance is important in displaying overall confidence and portraying a strong image.

When attending a party, there are certain expectations we have of our hostess. We will enjoy and appreciate everything she has done, but we do assume there will be food and drinks. We would also like a clean bathroom and a home that does not smell like the local pet store. What some people forget is there are also expectations of the guest.

Giving a party, of any type, requires a great deal of work. If you have been fortunate enough to be included in a festive soiree, it is nice to arrive with a gift for the hostess. The typical present will cost between $15-$30, but there are less expensive things you can find at the local discount store.

Attire: Shabby Chic; Razzle Dazzle; Cowboy Couture


Word to hostesses: when listing the attire on the invitation for your party, make it clear. Do not let your creative thoughts have you writing a description that requires an interpreter.  We do not want to force our guests to solve a riddle to understand what is expected of them. There is a phrase I like to quote, “To be unclear is to be unkind.”

There is something special we feel when we receive an invitation. It is the anticipation of a celebration, the excitement of choosing what to wear, but more importantly, it is the affirmation that tells us, “I was chosen!” We know a hostess has responsibilities to ensure her party is a success, but did you know there are expectations of the guests? And your first job begins when you receive an invitation that says RSVP.

Do you believe there is a creator behind this painting, or did it create itself? I believe if I polled 1,000 people, 100% would say, “Of course, there is a creator. That’s common sense.” Do you believe there is a Creator behind this picture? If I polled 1,000 people with the same question, stats show I would not receive 100% agreement that there was a Creator behind this picture.

People are returning to work, which means many of us will be navigating changes that would otherwise seem mundane. Elevator etiquette? Did you know there was such a thing? Below are 9 basic reminders when riding the lift. I have thrown in a few exceptions while we live in a COVID world. 

Throughout history we have seen God place people in power that made us say, “What is He thinking?” Yet God clearly reminds us in Isaiah that the way He thinks is far beyond what we can sometimes understand. In a child’s eyes, a parent giving her yucky medicine when she already feels poorly can seem cruel. “Why would Mommy make me take this?” The child lives in her “here and now” moment of life, yet the parent sees the big picture. The mother knows what is best for the child, even when the child does not understand. 

Our 4-part series on living as Christians in a political world was written in response to questions I have been receiving on knowing how to separate truth from lies, when to engage in our political system, and the most effective way to stay informed. In Part 1 we learned the biblical formula for seeking truth. In Part 2 we discussed the importance of knowing your foundation. In this post, Part 3, I will provide you with 7 practical tips I use to find truth in our news driven world. 

We are living in a time where many do not know who or what to believe. It seems our national 24-hour news media seeks ratings more than they seek truth (regardless of which way their bias leans). Many journalists receive bonuses based on how many clicks their story receives, and companies earn more advertising revenue if they can show a high click-through rate on articles. It has become too common to read endless bait-and-switch headlines.

“How do I know what is real? How do I know truth when I see it? I want to stay informed, but where do I turn when I feel every news source is somehow deceiving me?”

Giving you tips on hosting a Halloween party during COVID is sure easier than tackling subjects on news, politics, and finding truth. Yet these are the questions filling my inbox. 

Does this blog seem early? Did you know we only have 10 weeks before we move into December? It is time to start planning!
1. Decide how much you can spend. If you have a $500 budget and 10 people you need to give gifts, then you can only spend $50 a person.

Halloween in 2020 will be different than past years, but there are still ways to enjoy this festive start to the holiday season. This blog may seem early, but October 31st is only 7 weeks away! It is time to start planning. Below are my top 10 ideas for a jovial and happy start to your fall celebrations.

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Rules Without Reason Equals Rebellion

Updated: Jul 8

“Rules without reason equals rebellion.” -Cynthia Grosso, Charleston School of Protocol. This could be my motto! I have a stubborn streak that serves me well. On occasion, when it gets me into trouble, I blame it on my DNA. No matter what the reason, I find that I am not the best rule follower unless I know why a rule was created. Bureaucracy that occurs in many institutions is often nothing more than a bunch of rules giving authority to someone so they can exert control over you.

I believe in the reason we have manners, etiquette, and protocol, but in our more modern society, I feel following rules should make sense. Remember, good manners are making sure those around you are comfortable. It is not about following a bunch of rules. Knowing the rules of etiquette, though, can save us a lot of heartache when interacting with others. Unless we can put ourselves in another person’s shoes, we may not know we have crossed a boundary that should not be crossed. Etiquette helps us stay within the boundaries of good manners.

Through much research over the years, I have concluded that most etiquette guidelines have a purpose. If I know the “why” behind what I am asked to do, then I am happy to comply. I also find knowing the “why” allows me to remember what I am supposed to do.

With that in mind, I thought it would be fun to answer 7 common questions I have received regarding social practices. The answers will help everyone understand the purpose from which these traditions and mannerisms originated. I hope you enjoy!

Why do knife blades point in?

When eating a meal, we are taught to put our utensils down between bites with the sharp side of the blade in the resting position and pointing towards us. This rule dates to medieval days when utensils were a scarcity. That period was hostile and when men gathered around a table there was more uncertainty as to who was friend and who was foe. Carrying a weapon was common, and these weapons (usually a knife of some type) would sometimes be used to carve food. Pointing a sharp blade toward another person was considered a sign of aggression. To show you meant no harm, if your weapon was used at the dinner table, you made sure to point the sharp side of the blade toward yourself. This is the reason we turn our dinner blades inward.

Why do we shake with our right hand, and why is it a sign of greeting?

This answer dovetails with the answer above. During this same time in history, you never knew when you would encounter someone that intended to do you harm. When two men approached each other, they would stick out their right hand and grasp each other’s forearm. Most men wore a sword, and this sword was worn on the left hip. This allowed a right-handed man to easily draw his sword from the left side of his body. Imagine if, upon greeting, two men were grasping each other’s right arms, this would render that arm useless. Neither man would be able to draw his sword. When encountering another person, grabbing arms became a way of greeting each other and stating in unspoken words, “I come in peace.” Today, we continue this tradition of greeting by shaking hands, and we use our right hand for the simple reason that most of the world is right-handed.

Why does a man tip his hat?

Again, we are dealing with the same time-period. When a knight wore his armor, you could not see his face. We can read much about a person by looking into their eyes. Keeping our eyes hidden allows for secrecy (thus the reason some poker players wear sunglasses when playing). A knight, to show he meant no harm, would raise the visor on his helmet when greeting another person to reveal his eyes and face. By showing his identity, this communicated he came in peace. The courtesy became a sign of greeting. This same gesture moved into military ranks in future centuries. The hand movement a soldier uses to salute mimics the same formation a knight used when raising his face visor. Pretend you are wearing a knight’s helmet with a visor, and act like you are raising the visor to allow someone else to see your eyes. As you can see, you have just performed the modern military salute. The tipping of a civilian hat is a historical progression from the knight raising his visor and the soldier saluting. It is a sign of greeting.

Why were women taught to walk on the right side of a man?

As we have learned, most men wore their swords on their left hip. By having the woman walk on the right side of a man, she did not have to worry about encountering his sword. Also, if the man did need to quickly draw his sword, the woman’s body would not interfere if she were stationed to his right.

Why did men walk between a woman and the street?

It was for protection from dirt. Imagine the days of horses and carriages. The closer you were to the street, the dirtier you became. The man served as a buffer to the woman from all the grime the transportation vehicles from that day would fling.

Why did men take their hats off indoors?

Until recent history, men wore hats daily. A hat would protect from the cold and keep the sun off the head, but they also served to catch dirt and dust that often flew around during industrial times. Most of us have seen old Western movies where the cowboy walks into the saloon, takes off his hat, and proceeds to brush the dirt from his head covering. The reason men removed their hat indoors was for the simple reason…they were filthy! No one wanted a dirty hat at the dinner table where all the grime could contaminate the food or fall onto other guests. As soon as the man walked inside, he removed his hat and placed it on a rack. It is no different today when we carry a wet umbrella inside an establishment. Most restaurants will have a container for you to deposit the umbrella, so puddles do not gather throughout. I am often asked if men should still remove their hats today when entering an establishment. The short answer, yes.

Keep your elbows off the table

Are you seeing a pattern to the origin of much of our etiquette? Yep. Those medieval ancestors gave us a lot of rules, but they made sense. Here is another one. Kings would host massive banquets. There were long tables and benches filling the halls of the aristocracy. Space was an expensive commodity at these big slabs of wood, so the invited guests kept their arms close to the vest (so to speak). It was considered bad manners to prop your elbows on the table and infringe on another person’s space. In later history (and during the English and French eras where many of our modern etiquette rules were created) putting elbows on the table was considered a trait of the low-born, because it caused a person to slouch. Think about all the Downton Abbey episodes we watched where dining etiquette was displayed at its best. Every guest sat straight up in their chair. So, the rule of elbows off the table was created for two reasons: do not infringe on another’s space and have good posture.

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Lisa Lou

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