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A toast may be offered in any setting and made to an individual or a group. Increase your confidence at your next social gathering by learning the ins and outs of this ancient tradition. Toasting to someone’s health or honor goes back to biblical times and can be found in most cultures including the Egyptians, Greeks, and Persians.

We could spend hours diving into every aspect of table do’s and don’ts, but I want to give you my top 13 tips that will help you navigate any social or business gathering with confidence.

When God knitted together our precious children before they were even born, I am convinced he also wove in their personalities, gifts, and a love language! The concept of “love languages” is that each of us expresses and receives love in a unique way. The five love languages identified by Gary Chapman in his bestselling book are: Touch, Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Quality Time, and Gifts.

When God knitted together our precious children before they were even born, I am convinced he also wove in their personalities, gifts, and a love language! The concept of “love languages” is that each of us expresses and receives love in a unique way. The five love languages identified by Gary Chapman in his bestselling book are: Touch, Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Quality Time, and Gifts.

Vacations are back on the calendar, and many people are crossing the country through our friendly skies. I thought a refresher on airport and plane travel might do us all a little good.

I heard the most interesting ad the other day. There is a company that offers private-type flights for the commercial world. They describe themselves as a “hop on jet service.” On their website it states, “The convenience of private air but at commercial prices.” I looked them up, and there was one flight from Dallas to Houston for only $99!

“Conflict is part of every marriage. Thirty-seven percent of newlyweds admit to being more critical of their mates after marriage. And 30 percent report an increase in arguments. Whether you argue does not determine the health of your marriage. Far more important than how often you argue is how you argue.

With Father’s Day coming soon, you and your family will be celebrating one of the most important men in your life- Dad. As a child, he was your hero, your protector, and your solid rock. Now that you are older, you admire him for all that he has done for you and you still look to him for advice and wisdom. Picking out the perfect gift for Dad is not easy!

School is almost out for summer! Many of us want to gift our child’s teacher something special at the end of the year for all the love, kindness, and patience they have poured out on our little ones. Being a teacher is not easy, and they are so deserving of our gratitude especially after this wild 20/21 school year! Some common go-to gifts you might have thought of are bath and body products, Starbucks gift cards and mugs, but below are some additional gift ideas your child’s teacher will be touched to receive:

School is almost out for summer! Many of us want to gift our child’s teacher something special at the end of the year for all the love, kindness, and patience they have poured out on our little ones. Being a teacher is not easy, and they are so deserving of our gratitude especially after this wild 20/21 school year! Some common go-to gifts you might have thought of are bath and body products, Starbucks gift cards and mugs, but below are some additional gift ideas your child’s teacher will be touched to receive:

Graduation is a pivotal point in a young person’s life. It is the beginning of a season of responsibility, coming of age, and independence. As these twenty-somethings are about to discover the meaning of “adulting,” here are some gift ideas that will no doubt be a blessing in your college grad’s new life.

If some of you are thinking, “I believe I have read this letter before,” you would be correct. Our son and daughter (in law) had a beautiful wedding ceremony planned for April of 2020. As with thousands around the country, they had to postpone the big event, but chose to hold a private covenant ceremony in our backyard. Well, we are finally celebrating their wedding vows, and it was on my heart to re-post the letter I wrote to my son last year. Some things have changed (he is now 25, not 24 as the letter states), but I hope you enjoy!

 I heard the most interesting ad the other day. There is a company that offers private-type flights for the commercial world. They describe themselves as a “hop on jet service.” On their website it states, “The convenience of private air but at commercial prices.” I looked them up, and there was one flight from Dallas to Houston for only $99! 

“We read a lot of articles and books about how to get through the engagement process, but no one ever talked to us about what it would be like the first year of our marriage. I wish we had known what to expect,” said one of the couples my husband and I mentor. This is a common comment, and if you find yourself having similar feelings, do not fret! You are not alone. The first year of marriage is fabulous, but it can also be difficult. Two people learning to become one does not happen overnight.

We all like to think we have good manners in marriage, but with the people that are closest to us, we can sometimes find ourselves slipping a bit. As stated by Cindy Grosso of the Charleston School of Protocol, manners are not about a bunch of rules. Manners are the outward manifestation of the condition of our heart. If we have a heart that loves, honors, respects, and cherishes our spouse, then these traits will show in how we behave.

Society is opening and people are resuming long overdue vacations. This is great news! I recently posted some tips on making your travels successful, but let’s focus on dos and don’ts of traveling with friends.

 

1. Boundaries: When traveling with others, set guidelines, boundaries, and expectations before leaving town. If you know you and your husband want one night to yourselves, express this up front. If a quiet breakfast in bed is necessary to start your day, see if this fits with the group’s schedule. 

  • Lisa Lou

Take the Stress out of Your Morning Routine



How many mornings have we left home in a state of utter chaos? Breakfast was late, children were crying, and we hurriedly throw on clothes from the night before only to realize how wrinkled we look. This mad dash makes for an unpleasant parting from our family and it is usually caused by a disorganized approach to our routine. So much of the bedlam we experience at the beginning of the day can be avoided if we are willing to implement a few tasks the night before. Once I began taking these simple steps, it was amazing how pleasant everything became. I also picked up more time, which, ultimately meant I was not dumping stress onto my family. It was a win/win for everyone! If you want a better start to your day, here are some tips my family has incorporated to make our mornings run more smoothly.


The night before:


1. Lay out all clothes for the next day, including undergarments and accessories. I have two 3M hooks stuck to the inside of a cabinet door. I hang my pants or skirt on the bottom hook and my blouse or sweater on the top hook. I then coordinate my jewelry and all accessories and attach them to the hanger followed by placing my shoes on the cabinet floor. Don’t forget the undergarments! These are also draped over the hanger. Too many times I have spent precious minutes searching for my strapless bra “I could have sworn” was in that drawer. By laying everything out the night before, you can avoid that “what will I wear” stumbling block that inevitably derails your morning.


2. If any of your clothes are wrinkled, take care of this when you are organizing your outfit for the next day. I prefer to steam my clothes, so I keep a steamer in my closet for easy access.


3. Check the weather for the next day. Will you need a coat or an umbrella? If so, pull this out.


4. Does your breakfast require any prep work? I love to eat Teff each morning (my favorite grain). I will make up a large casserole dish on Sunday that stays fresh throughout the week. I also make a batch of scrambled eggs that can last a few days. They may not be “day of” fresh, but it works for me and saves prep time.


5. Is your coffee station ready to go? I have a self-grinding machine, so I make sure the beans are in the hopper, the water is in the tank, a fresh paper filter is in place, and my coffee mug is out. I like to set the timer, so the coffee is ready to go when I walk into the kitchen. If you use sweeteners or creamer, have those ready, along with your spoon. When everything is in one place, and you are not running to one drawer for a utensil and another cabinet for a mug, it makes for a less chaotic morning, and it DOES save time.


6. Create your action list for the next day. There are so many different organizational methods, but I will share what I do. I keep a blank journal, and each January I take several pages to write everything I can possibly think of that I need to do for the year. Obviously, each month I add to this list, but by having one designated spot where I can do a “brain dump” to capture my thoughts my mind stays uncluttered. If you can get a thought out of your brain and onto paper, it reduces stress. I then create a separate page dedicated for each month of the year. When each month comes around, I refer to my “brain dump” pages and transfer any item I need to accomplish to that month. One example. I begin my Christmas gift shopping each year in October, so on the page marked October I write: Buy Christmas gifts. Buying Christmas gifts is on my “brain dump” page, but I do not need to continually write this every day or every month on one big action list, because I know I will not even tackle this until October. So, why would I put it on any other list except October? From my monthly list, I then create a weekly list every Sunday night of the things that need to be accomplished in the upcoming week. Lastly, every night I look at my weekly list and proceed to write down what I will accomplish the next day. This helps me in two ways. First, I know exactly what I need to work on that day, and secondly, I feel a great sense of accomplishment at the end of the day when I can check off my completed tasks. If I had to look at my long “brain dump” list every night, or even weekly, I would become overwhelmed. For me, by breaking my tasks down into bite-sized pieces, most nights I can go to bed feeling I accomplished a great deal. By only focusing on my daily tasks, I keep myself from being distracted and randomly hopping from item to item, emergency to emergency, which ultimately would cause me to accomplish little. For me, this system works great. Whatever technique you use, I highly recommend getting it organized the night before so you are ready to hit the road the next morning. (The system I use is from the Bullet Journal website.)


7. If you have children, create the same routine for them as you do for yourself. Lay out their clothes the night before, pack up their backpacks or diaper bag, and set everything by your car keys. If they are older, teach them to start laying out their own clothes and packing up their schoolbooks before they go to bed. You are giving your children a great gift when you teach them to successfully master their own routine.


8. Once everything is packed create an “exit” station by your door. Everything you and your children will need for the next day should be placed there: purse, backpack, briefcase, wallet, coat, umbrella, KEYS (how much time have we wasted looking for lost keys!). If you need to take it with you the next day, then it goes by the exit station the night before.


In the morning:


1. Set your alarm 30 minutes earlier than you think you need. This is important if you tend to run late. We all want more sleep, but those extra minutes of snoozing is usually not worth the trade-off of a frantic and chaotic morning. Any benefit your body has received from the extra rest will usually be eliminated by the stress you cause yourself through an anxiety provoked morning routine. You might be groggy the first week you try this approach, but your body will adjust.


2. Start with a quiet time. There are hundreds of quick devotionals online that can be read in a matter of minutes. I read 3 pages in a chronological Bible each day. This takes about 15 minutes. My heart is filled with a peace and calmness that makes the rest of the morning flow more smoothly. Maybe for you, it is meditating or writing in a gratitude journal. Whatever it might be, take a few moments for yourself to be still.


3. Ok, this is a hard one, but it is ohhhh so worth it! Never Check Email in the Morning, a book by Julie Morgenstern, means just that…never check email in the morning! It is a huge time drain. Go through your morning routine and once you are ready to walk out the door, then dive into your electronic communications. This will be difficult for many people, but if we can recognize how much time we waste reading junk emails or perusing social media to see what others are doing (things that do not help us with our morning routine), we would all become more disciplined in this area. When I am tempted to spend time on Facebook, Instagram, or any other media platform in the morning, I verbally ask myself, “Is spending time on (fill in the blank) going to help me accomplish my goals for today? Is it going to make my morning go more smoothly?” Obviously, the answer is almost always a big NO. These questions help me to refocus.


4. After I have my morning quiet time, I take a few minutes to review my daily task list that I created the night before. This prepares my mind to begin my day.


5. If you are married, and you have the luxury of separate bathrooms (or at least separate sinks) then take advantage of this. Tripping over each other while you are both getting ready can slow you down. Have your own toiletries and everything you need to get dressed. It sounds insignificant, but when you are short on time and must stand next to your spouse waiting for them to hand you the toothpaste, it wastes valuable minutes. My husband and I each have our own floss, face soap, toothpaste, and deodorant, even though we use the same brands. I never have to wait on him, and he never has to wait on me.


6. If you have children, and they are old enough, create a checklist of things they need to do each morning. When they know exactly what is expected of them (brush teeth, get dressed, make bed), it allows them to experience success in their own abilities and organizational skills. It also eliminates that small voice down the hallway yelling, “Mommy, what do I do now?” Which, inevitably, will derail your own morning routine.


I can say with 100% confidence I have nearly eliminated my morning stress by organizing my day the night before. The steps you take to get out the door each day will either be done at night or in the A.M. In the morning, though, there are usually more distractions. Plus, you are fighting against a deadline to start your day, get to work, or drop the children off at school. By organizing the night before, although you might be tired, you are not up against a clock. I feel confident you will be amazed how your morning stress is reduced just by switching your routine from morning to night. For me, it made all the difference in the world!


Together with you,

Lisa Lou