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Mother’s Day is quickly approaching! As a busy mom, Mother’s Day can sneak up on you with the chaos of end of the year school activities, home projects, and travel plans. Moms have a heart of gold and do not have expectations of presents, but we still love the gesture of gifting to make the day special and show our appreciation for everything she does for the family.

“We read a lot of articles and books about how to get through the engagement process, but no one ever talked to us about what it would be like the first year of our marriage. I wish we had known what to expect,” said one of the couples my husband and I mentor. This is a common comment, and if you find yourself having similar feelings, do not fret! You are not alone. The first year of marriage is fabulous, but it can also be difficult. Two people learning to become one does not happen overnight.

We all like to think we have good manners in marriage, but with the people that are closest to us, we can sometimes find ourselves slipping a bit. As stated by Cindy Grosso of the Charleston School of Protocol, manners are not about a bunch of rules. Manners are the outward manifestation of the condition of our heart. If we have a heart that loves, honors, respects, and cherishes our spouse, then these traits will show in how we behave.

Society is opening and people are resuming long overdue vacations. This is great news! I recently posted some tips on making your travels successful, but let’s focus on dos and don’ts of traveling with friends.

 

1. Boundaries: When traveling with others, set guidelines, boundaries, and expectations before leaving town. If you know you and your husband want one night to yourselves, express this up front. If a quiet breakfast in bed is necessary to start your day, see if this fits with the group’s schedule. 

The world is opening, and it is time to celebrate! One of the first things people are doing as they exercise their recaptured freedom is heading out of town to new destinations. I thought a few refresher tips on travel might be good for all of us.

Walking into the room, my husband pauses in front of the TV. Turning to me with a spoiler alert about my favorite Hallmark movie he says, “Hey Lisa…they get married.” And you know what? He’s right! The girl found her prince charming, and the couple has a happy ending, every time.

How many mornings have we left home in a state of utter chaos? Breakfast was late, children were crying, and we hurriedly throw on clothes from the night before only to realize how wrinkled we look. This mad dash makes for an unpleasant parting from our family and it is usually caused by a disorganized approach to our routine. So much of the bedlam we experience at the beginning of the day can be avoided if we are willing to implement a few tasks the night before.

The mamor (mother-in-law) and damor (daughter-in-law) relationship is meant to be beautiful and strong. In parts 1 and 2 of our series we learned why women in these roles might have certain feelings in their new family dynamics. Once we learned the “why” we then explored practical steps we can take to strengthen these special bonds. As we bring our series to a close, I want to impart some words of wisdom we all need to hear, and be reminded of, to ensure we create a healthy, life-long bond between the mamor/damor.

In part one of our series on the mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship we learned why the women who find themselves in these roles often experience emotions ranging from pure joy to hurt and sadness. Once we discovered the answers, our understanding of this special relationship came into focus. We had an “aha” moment which makes our path forward easier to navigate.

Do you remember the movie Monster-in-Law? It starred Jennifer Lopez and Jane Fonda in a romantic comedy centered around the tumultuous relationship between a bride and her future mother-in-law. If you have not seen it, you should. It will keep you laughing but, sadly, may hit closer to home than you would like to admit.

As Texas plunged into single digits with multiple days of a windchill below freezing, millions found themselves stranded with no power or water. Living along the Gulf Coast we have weathered hurricanes and endured power outages for much longer periods, but somehow this seemed different. Maybe for those of us close to the shoreline it was the unusual sight of snow we experienced as opposed to the natural disasters we usually face that arrive with rain, wind, and sweltering heat.

Our son and daughter (in law) were finally able to take a long-overdue honeymoon to St. Lucia in December. Cecelia interned one summer for a travel agent so naturally called the company to book their trip. What an incredible experience they had, and I was reminded WHY using a travel agent is worth the expense. Fees range depending on the service, but most charge between $300-350 to plan a vacation somewhere in the Caribbean Islands. 

Q: I will be a new mom soon, and I have been preparing for life “after” a newborn. There is a lot of information on raising babies, and how dads can support mom, but I cannot find much on how moms can support dads. A lot of my mental preparation has been around my marriage. Specific questions: How do I preserve my marriage? How do we embrace the changes? How do I maintain my husband as a priority when we have a tiny human demanding everything? How can I help my husband bond with our new child?

Want to set your children up for success? Then look no further than the habits of successful people you know, whether that be in the corporate world, media, or within your own circle of friends. Experts agree that there are certain common traits all successful people possess. This is great news because it means we can emulate those leaders that have come before us. 

Many of us grew up learning multitasking was a hallmark of a productive person. While sounding good in theory, this practice has proven to be incorrect. Studies now reveal that multitasking is nothing more than switching back and forth between tasks and it lowers our productivity. Below are 5 points that deal with the facts behind project hopping and the lack of performance that occurs when we allow seemingly innocuous interruptions to occur in daily life.

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What I Learned When I Read the Bible

Updated: Jan 22



I learned the story of the Bible is simple. Every narrative and small parable now make sense to me, because I discovered they all tie together into God’s overall plan, which is to bring us back into fellowship with Him. Throughout the individual tales we learn about God’s character, man’s character, why we do what we do, how we can function in our daily life, why certain things mean what they mean, but regardless of which direction the adventures take us, the overall theme throughout the Book remains the same: God is bringing us home to Him.


I also learned the Bible is not written chronologically. Many verses from different books overlap. I had many “aha” moments as clarity sank in. I learned not to get confused by all the side stories. Take them to heart. Grow closer to God through them but filter every lesson through the one underlying message of the Bible: God created man; man sinned, separating us from God; God immediately began implementing His plan to restore the broken line between man and God to give man a way to return Home; but in the end, it is up to man to choose. He can go it alone, or he can return to the One who created him. That, my friends, is what I learned when I read the Bible. A simple love story of a Father bringing His children Home.


My daily discoveries will post on Sundays. As you read my findings from each book of the Bible, I hope you will take them for what they are. I am not a theologian, and I wrote what spoke to me. These are not profound teachings I am imparting. Some are simple recognitions that I did not know, or I had forgotten. Example: Did you realize the ark Noah built landed somewhere in the mountains of Ararat, which is today part of eastern Turkey? Did you know God grieves? Imagining my Creator weeping over me makes my heart break. Did anyone ever tell you there is a purpose behind the long genealogical lists, which is where many of us sigh a big UGH, stop reading, and close the Bible?


I tell all of this, so you know my daily discoveries were not always profound. Sometimes they are simply generic facts I found interesting. There are also important verses or themes that I do not mention, because they were not on my heart to write. So, take these daily postings for what they are. A daughter of Christ enjoying the mysteries of the Bible that spoke to her. My challenge? That you do your own reading, page by page. God will take you on your own adventure. The secrets He will reveal to you will be different than what He revealed to me, yet His truth will always remain visible and consistent.


The only way we discern what is real from what is a lie is to study truth. As the old saying goes, “If you don’t know where you are going, any road will get you there.” I knew which road would get me Home before I fully read the Bible, but now that I have digested each word, the path I travel is full of adventure, and each day brings a new surprise. I challenge you to step onto the road God began building at the fall of man and completed upon the death of Christ. A trail that now takes us directly Home. Begin your journey back to Him, with the Bible as your compass, and delight in the unspeakable treasures along the way that He has already placed along your path. There will come a day for each one of us when we reach the end of the road. The question is, which road are you on?


Together with you,

Lisa Lou